The Shift

[Lin Kuang]

Dr. Dube deepened the Chinese familism and the big change of the chinese family structures and relationship. In ancient China, grandparents used to centered with sons and daughters, then grandsons and granddaughters as pyramid bounded together with happiness and sorrors, but in modern China the pyrimid has been flipped over as grandson/granddaughter-centered with their parents and four grandparents, which completely changed the family stucture and foccus " Grandparent became grandson, and women went uo to teh sky" "Super Mom make perfect children" effects. In order to develop a "dragon Son parents sacrifice their lives, their happiness, even their career in order to have their children for the best education with the best outcomes. At the same time, these children are under tremendous pressure becasue they have to satifiy their parents with their grades and achievements. Not just parents are tired, the kids are extremely tired too. They are burdened from theri childhood with heanvy duties, learning English, developeing skills of playing instruemnts. dancing, singing, playing sports, etc. completely lost their childhood in playing, which we believe is an important way to learn.  Of course, their parents and grandparents will do all things to make theor dreams come true. This really bothers me a lot as an educator.